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Waking up on February 20 and realizing that I’m 25 wasn’t easy. Research suggests that at age 25 your brain is fully developed, and I at that point assumed maybe I can actually make better decisions. At this moment, I want to continue to explore the world and learn more about myself. The truth is, I still have much to learn about life. I believe wholeheartedly that my choices in these past 25 years are the reason I am where I am. I don’t regret any of those choices. Each moment is a learning experience whether it is a good one or a bad one.
The following are 25 life lessons I’ve learned in my 25 years of life. No matter what age you are I believe you can relate to a few of these life lessons.
1 - Family is the key to success
I grew up with my mother and 3 brothers. With them I never felt out of place, and they are the first people who accepted me for who I really am. Family is the definition of unconditional love.
2 - Love yourself
I can tell you first hand learning to love yourself first will bring you happiness. Once you get to that point, no other opinion will matter but your own. Loving yourself is accepting your flaws and no one can use them against you. When you do love yourself you don’t accept anyone who doesn’t respect you or treat you the way you deserve.
3 - Don’t worry about what you can’t control
As humans we want to control every situation presented. The reality is we can’t control the actions or choices of other people. We can only control our own choices. At the end of the day as long as in your heart you made the best choice, you can live with that.
4 - Being alone
Learn to take advantage of your alone time. Remember that being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. The world is a chaotic place, but getting away to relax can help tremendously.
5 - Surround yourself with people who support your dreams
The people you surround yourself with are a reflection of you. People who want you to succeed motivate you and celebrate your success in life. These people don’t let you lower your standards.
6 - Keep learning
This consists of getting a higher education to reading new books daily. Keep exploring and constantly obtaining knowledge.
7 - Don’t be afraid of vulnerability
What breaks my heart is jaded hearts. It saddens me that people are afraid of opening up because the people who they opened up to didn’t stick around for the long run. Scars heal and vulnerability is beautiful. Don’t let past experiences stop you from opening up and letting people see your soul.
8 - Rejection is not the end of the world
The high hopes of getting that job or even your crush liking you back. At times it doesn’t work out to our advantage. A rejection is a new opportunity to try harder to achieve the main goal. The key is to persevere.
9 - Keep laughing
This can be difficult when you feel your world is crumbling, but laughter keeps you young. Go and hang out with the people who make who laugh the most. You will realize life isn’t as bad as it seems.
10 - Learn to forgive yourself
Forgiveness brings peace. You have to realize not everything is meant to be, and that isn’t your fault. If someone doesn’t want to love you, that isn’t your problem anymore, and never forget your worth.
11 - Cry sometimes
If you’re like me you hate crying in front of people or you hate crying in general. I’ve learned that bottling your emotions is much worse. Don’t forget you’re human, and you have feelings.
12 - Travel to new places
You can start by traveling to new cities in your state. Explore new scenic views and talk to the people from that town. Learn why they love their town and if they recommend any new places. Once you save enough money, explore other counties. People have different viewpoints and you can learn something new.
13 - Read poetry and books
Literature in general is a way to continue to expand your horizons. It helps with relaxing and self-expression.
14 - You don’t owe anyone an explanation
If people don’t accept your reasons and your actions, you don’t need to justify them. At the end of the day you must do what is best for you.
15 - Compassion goes along way
We tend to forget to be kind to people. Just being there for someone and listening to their problems can go a long way. You never know who is having a bad day.
16 - Don’t wear makeup everyday
Sometimes you want to walk around all natural, and that is perfectly fine. It can be refreshing not to put mascara or lipstick on.
17 - Be grateful
Never forget about your blessings. Don’t forget you’re fortunate to be in the position you’re in. You will learn to cherish your struggles and successes in life.
18 - Your mom will always love you
I can’t tell you how many times my mom has seen me at my lowest points, but never has she loved me less. Don’t forget to thank her once in a while.
19 - People don’t change, circumstances do
You can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to. Even as hard you try they can only change their ways. It doesn't matter if the scenarios change, people tend to stick their morals.
20 - Never change your morals
If people don’t accept your beliefs or choices in life, you shouldn't settle for less. When someone cares enough about you they won’t judge you or pressure you to change.
21 - If you’re in love with someone, tell them
Being in love is the best and the worst feeling the world. It’s scary, but what is scarier is keeping that secret.
22 - Taking care of your body
Exercising will make you healthier and give you more energy. Start off slowly. Set goals for yourself and don't compare yourself to anyone.
23 - Go for the kiss
If you like that person, go in for the kiss. Only two outcomes can come out of it. One is they don’t like it or they do. I can guarantee you that you won’t regret it.
24 - Giving out advice is easier than taking it
I like to say when it comes to giving advice I am pretty good, but I am hypocritical because it’s difficult for me to follow my own advice. Take into consideration your own words, and how taking your own advice can change your life.
25 - I’m still learning
Age is just a number. So far this year has taught me so much about my dreams and self-worth. I will continue to grow emotionally, physically, and mentally.