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Let’s be honest, our 20s are a … weird time. The whole transitioning into adulthood and finding yourself game can be a bit overwhelming to say the least. But here is what you need to know:
1. Everything takes time.
For me, this was one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn. In a fast-paced world, we want everything right now within the snap of our fingers. Sadly, this is not how it works. Don’t rush things. As cliché as it sounds, what is meant for you will find you. Don’t mope about the boy that didn’t work out or the job that rejected you. Better things are in store for you, trust me.
2. Everyone is just as confused.
Yeah, it may seem like the people you went to high school with have it all figured out. You scroll through their social media, you see their endless travel posts, their cute couples’ pics, their brand new car, or that new job they landed. This doesn’t mean that they have all the answers to life. Don’t get caught up on what other people are doing, it will only slow you down. I promise you that they experience the same type of uncertainties that you do.
3. You WILL experience hurt, but you WILL overcome it.
I could not tell you how many times I have cried, felt pain, or been hurt over things that have made me feel so weak that I legitimately thought the world was going to end. But I can definitely tell you that I have come out as a stronger person every single time. A big chunk of our 20s consists of dealing with people coming in and out of our lives, facing rejections, and making mistakes. Part of adulthood is learning how to find the positive in any given situation. So yes, you will cry, you will experience hurt, and you will stumble upon rejection, but you WILL overcome it.
4. Be present in the moment.
Getting caught up in all the “adulting” that comes with your 20s, it’s hard to fully indulge yourself in the amazing experiences that also come with this age of freedom. Yes, freedom. Sometimes it’s okay to put your worries and responsibilities to the side and be present. Travel. Meet people. Make unforgettable memories. Pick up a hobby. Give back. Spend time with your loved ones. Go to a concert. Eat something that scares you. Love with all you have and feel everything all at once. You will not have as much freedom as you have right now at this exact moment.
5. Take a goddamn chance on yourself.
Yes, I’m talking to you. The hardest part about our 20s is not figuring out what we want to do. We know what we want to do. But we don’t do it. Why? Because we are afraid. We are afraid that the outcome will disappoint us, that people will find us incapable of pursing our dreams, and most importantly we are afraid that we will not be good enough. Listen: If you want it, go fucking get it. We are young, we have all the time in the world to take chances and fail, but get back up again. Don’t focus on the goal; become obsessed with the daily grind that’s going to get you there. Put in the hours. Expect it to be hard but expect it to be worth it. The only thing you are against in life is your potential. Don’t surprise others with what you are capable of doing, surprise your goddamn self. So take that chance and enjoy your 20s with confidence that you will make it out alive.